I always wish I knew that sooner: Emotional abuse is abuse.
A selection of quotes from my now ex-boyfriend:
“Would you rather I hit you?”
“You have like six fucking personalities.”
“I don’t care about your past, it’s not my problem.”
“Now I understand why men hit women.”
“You deserved to be raped, cheated on, fucked over…”
“This is all your fault.”
“You’re just trying to make my life miserable.”
He never once took responsibility for anything. He got dehydrated at work? My fault, I didn’t put his water bottle in the dishwasher. He lost his job? My fault, I was making life at home too stressful. His truck broke down? My fault, my fault, my fault…. somehow, always.
I never considered it to be abuse, until he threatened to drive his truck off a bridge… with both of us in it.