I think I may have mentioned in previous posts that I consider myself to be a feminist. Submission is my choice, it is neither something I feel obligated to do nor am I submissive towards all men. This post contains some serious sexism, proceed at your own risk.
A week ago, maybe longer, I received a message on CollarSpace (yes, I have one of those under my actual identity. Pure entertainment) from a Dom seeking a 1950’s style relationship complete with the domestic discipline element. No problem, that idea has always intrigued me but I was upfront that I was not interested in any type of relationship with him. I also stated that I was willing to chat as long as there was no pressure to meet. Also, he’s about four inches shorter than me and, at the risk of sounding vain, I just… can’t.
From what I can gather, this is the type of woman he is looking for: A woman who has no thoughts or ideas of her own. A woman who wants to marry a man she barely knows. A woman who is okay with him sleeping with other women but will still remain faithful to him. A woman who wants to stay pregnant all the time. (He has a breast milk fetish).
His idea of domestic discipline is locking his sub in a cage under his bed for 24 hours any time she does something he doesn’t like. He expects her to carry a ping-pong paddle in her purse, so he can spank her with it anywhere he feels like regardless of who is around. This isn’t domestic discipline, this is abuse. I am certain he doesn’t understand the difference.
I was upfront with him that none of this matched my own desires and even expressed a little concern. He still wanted to chat and I agreed. I know this makes me sound like a shitty person, but I wasn’t talking to him for the quality of conversation. I was talking to him because I needed to be entertained.
He wasted no time in telling me that I’d have to give up my job, my blogs (he doesn’t know the URLs to any of them), and even my cats (NOPE) and focus solely on being a wife and mother. According to him, those are the only two purposes that women serve on this planet.
‘Yes, random stranger, I’ll give up everything for which I worked my ass off just for you’ said no woman, submissive or not, ever.
And then, he informed me: “If we had daughters, I’d expect you to teach them how to be submissive to their future husbands.”
OMG. I LOST IT. There is not a chance in hell that I would ever, EVER teach any child of mine that their only purpose was to serve someone else.
It is people like him that make me push so hard against my submissive side. I know this isn’t a good representation of a Dom. This guy is a control freak, but it is still very concerning.
This morning he sent me various photos of chastity belts, telling me that ‘his woman’ would wear one of these every time she went anywhere without him. I made the mistake of asking why. Apparently, since all women suffer from uncontrollable lust and possess tiny, thoughtless brains, we will sleep with anyone and anything that crosses our path ever. Thus, chastity belt. LOL. Oh, and he also believes that rape is the fault of the victim and not the rapist. I can hardly believe such a gem is single. *I’ve never written anything with such sarcasm in my life.