And, finally we are at the last ten 30 Days of Kink writing prompts. I’m not sure why but they did not keep my attention like I thought they would. Enjoy the last 10!
Day 21: Favorite BDSM related book (fiction or non-fiction)
I don’t have one. I have only read 50 Shades which is a far cry from being a good example of a BDSM relationship.
Day 22: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy? How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?
Communication and trust, just like a vanilla relationship. The difference is I feel that the levels of communication and trust need to be much higher, this is coming from experience in both types of relationships.
Day 23: Since you first developed an interest in kink, have your interests/perspectives changed? How so?
I think I am always, always evolving within this lifestyle. Since starting to explore this lifestyle, I believe I have become more accepting of other people’s interests, etc regardless of how I feel about them.
Day 24: What qualities do you look for in a partner?
Oh man, where to start!?
First and foremost, someone who accepts me as ME and doesn’t feel the need to change every little thing. Someone who understands that I also have opinions and a brain and that I am far from a doormat. Someone who follows through on the things they say. For example, Sir is the first Dom I have had that actually set rules and followed through with consequences when said rules were broken.
Patience and a sarcastic sense of humor is also helpful.
Day 25: How open are you about your kinks?
I do not share them lightly. This blog is anonymous for a reason. Sir is the only person in my life at this moment who has any idea. I am not ashamed of my kinks or of being submissive, but if this got out to the wrong person it could have some major consequences.
Day 26: What’s your opinion on online BDSM play?
I think if it’s your cup of tea, then go for it. Personally, 100% online play is not for me and I was always a little wary of people on Collarspace or FetLife that only wanted online play.
Day 27: Do your non-kink interests ever find their way into your kinky activities? If so, how?
I still very much keep my vanilla and kinky interests separate. Of course, you could consider writing a non-kink activity that is now a somewhat kinky activity.
Day 28: How do you dress for kink/BDSM? What significance does your attire have to you?
I do not have a specific way to dress. Leather, and anything typically attributed to BDSM, kind of annoys me. I don’t mean any offense if you’re into that, it just isn’t for me. I don’t enjoy being shoved into a box of stereotypes.
Day 29: Do you have a BDSM title? What is your opinion of the use of titles in general?
Submissive? I’m not really sure what to put here.
Day 30: Whatever BDSM/kink related thing you want to write about.
This set of writing prompts was meant to help me open up about my life as a submissive, given that I rarely write about such things on this blog. I do plan to be more open in the future. I have been receiving the 30 Days of D/s writing prompts in my e-mail for the last few weeks from Loving BDSM and I’ll be working on those next.