What Does Submission Mean To You?

Does a submissive have certain behaviors? Do submissives do specific tasks?

No behaviors/tasks are set by the Dom. Some subs share certain traits; quietness, being reserved, overly apologizing, or avoiding eye contact. This is not an exhaustive list nor is it true of all subs. Stella for example kicks ass and takes names at work, literally doing the jobs of three people, yet she is also quiet and reserved. No two people are alike, so they will never have the same behaviors, and subs are people too. 😉 When it comes to tasks again no two Doms are alike and no two will want things done the same way.

Here is where I think the sub questions are off point, because subs are a diverse group. The 6’4″ guy I would not want to face in a fight can be, and some of them are, as sub as a petite 5 foot tall blonde. While not all subs share a shape/size/manner/gender, they do share one thing, a mind set. Subs want to please, they want to be of service and making their partner happy makes them happy. The degree to which they are willing to sacrifice their own happiness to me marks the difference between a sub and a slave.

When you think of a submissive and submission, what thoughts come to mind?

Service, strength, vulnerability, love, desire.

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What does Dominance mean to you? – Sir’s perspective

So in case it was not clear we are newlywed gaming this. I don’t know her answers nor she mine.

What does dominance in a relationship mean to your? 

It means to be a leader and to be in control. It means you have responsibility for more than just yourself. It means that someone is counting on you. Ironically it also means to be in service, because as surely as those you lead are in service to you, you are in service to them as well.

What traits will a Dominant have?

Attention to detail, willingness to communicate, willingness to teach, patience, willingness to learn, understanding. At the end of the day BDSM is a relationship, different than others more structured, and the Dom needs to be able to be a good partner as well as leader.

How should a Dominant behave?

As if his sub is the most important person in his world. A Dom should be be calm, willing to listen, be stability in chaos. A Dom should keep his word for good or bad, which means being strict at times. A Dom should also laugh with his sub, share in jokes with her. A Dom should act as his sub’s partner and rock in all ways.