That scene makes me laugh out loud every single time. ❤ Also, it has literally zero things to do with this blog post.
The actual point of this blog post is to complete the next prompt that I received in my e-mail from Loving BDSM (you can see previous writing prompts here). This one is about contracts and negotiations. I added rules to the title because I’m going to touch on that a little too!
“People read the word “negotiation” and imagine some sort of back and forth thing around a table in a formal way. It can be that, sure, but mostly it’s just the conversation you have to figure out what kind of D/s relationship you want for yourself. Submissives have the right to, and should, ask why a rule/task/ritual is being put in place and both sides should have the freedom to disagree, suggest other things, and make sure their needs are being met.
Negotiations aren’t a one time thing either. You’ll come back to this over and over again in your relationship. Will you have a contract? Do you need a checklist? What exactly does a negotiation sound like?”
Well, right off the bat, I will tell you that Sir and I do NOT have a contract and we probably never will. To me, they are a bit unnecessary. I honestly mean no offense to anyone who has a contract as part of their D/s, but it isn’t for me. We haven’t gone through any type of checklist either.
Do we negotiate? Of course. I actually had to discuss this with Sir a little because from our relationship thus far it has seemed like negotiation was never really a thing. Oh, but it was and definitely is a thing! If I am uncomfortable with something, I tell him and, thus, we negotiate. It’s basically a constant negotiation.
Back to the contracts, this doesn’t mean I don’t have rules, tasks, etc. I do and I keep a list of them on my phone. Instead of signing my name to something, I just agree that I am going to follow these rules and accept any consequences for breaking them. So perhaps it is more contract-ish that I though. However, contract or not, the option to walk away is always there. Not that I’m about to exercise that option. I am still a very smitten kitten. ❤ ❤ ❤
Keep an eye out for Sir’s answer to this prompt, I’m sure it’ll be along soon 😉
Also, because I’m now in the habit of adding soundtracks to my posts (literally just songs that have nothing to do with anything and happened to be playing as I typed…).