What Does Submission Mean To You?

Does a submissive have certain behaviors? Do submissives do specific tasks?

No behaviors/tasks are set by the Dom. Some subs share certain traits; quietness, being reserved, overly apologizing, or avoiding eye contact. This is not an exhaustive list nor is it true of all subs. Stella for example kicks ass and takes names at work, literally doing the jobs of three people, yet she is also quiet and reserved. No two people are alike, so they will never have the same behaviors, and subs are people too. 😉 When it comes to tasks again no two Doms are alike and no two will want things done the same way.

Here is where I think the sub questions are off point, because subs are a diverse group. The 6’4″ guy I would not want to face in a fight can be, and some of them are, as sub as a petite 5 foot tall blonde. While not all subs share a shape/size/manner/gender, they do share one thing, a mind set. Subs want to please, they want to be of service and making their partner happy makes them happy. The degree to which they are willing to sacrifice their own happiness to me marks the difference between a sub and a slave.

When you think of a submissive and submission, what thoughts come to mind?

Service, strength, vulnerability, love, desire.

30 Days of Kink Day 3: The beginning

I meant to answer the Day 3 question a few days ago, but as hard as I tried I just could not get any words to spill from my brain.  However, I did mention that this might take me longer than 30 days.. so, I was right!

Day 3: How did you discover you were kinky?

I’m not sure I can pinpoint the exact moment that I realized I was kinky.  I think I knew the second I stumbled across the stories about spanking on some random website that I had different desires.  I’m just kind of glad my parents never checked the search history, I cannot even begin to imagining having to explain myself.

It actually began as an interest in the domestic discipline lifestyle.  In fact, most of the stories I read revolved around it.  I didn’t read stories that I considered overly kinky.  It wasn’t until I was 17 and had my own laptop and internet connection (dial-up, because that’s how cool I was) in my room that I really became interested in BDSM.

I guess the rest is just history, it all snowballed from there. Short answer:  I was an overly curious teenager with an internet connection.

I am not sure when Day 4 will make an appearance, I had originally intended to add it to this post but later changed my mind.  Sir has requested a follow-up post to Day 2, so I shall probably be doing that next if my mind cooperates.